Even though doing long distance can be quite a challenge,
take it as a positive challenge. It’s not a threat – it’s an OPPORTUNITY.
If you can survive being apart, you can survive ANYTHING.
On this little article I’m listing a few advice on how to turn the
sucky situation a little less sucky,
and how to get through these difficult times.
Trust me, I know how heartbreaking and annoying it is
when you can’t hug or touch or kiss your booboo when you want
– but, imagine the feeling when you’re finally together again.
Their scent, their presence, their touch, their laugh…
How magically special every moment feels after spending some time apart.
Live for those moments darling,
because who knows, maybe next year you’re already living together
and all those things that you once had to wait for months,
are now just everyday routines for you, and your boo only annoys you.
And you’re annoying the hell out of them. Maybe you already are. Tehe.
Here are my thoughts and tips on surviving a long distance relationship!
#1: HARASS THE HELL OUT OF THEM!!!!!!!
Obviously not all the time, like let’s give them some room to breathe.
But still remind them everyday that you are the one. Their number one. And remind them about your flaming burning love for them.
For example I ALWAYS want to know what’s up.
What did his morning coffee taste like? What was he thinking about at 10:22AM? Or 9 PM?
Did he do groceries today? Did he buy something delicious? Or maybe something exotic? Did he read the daily newspaper?
Like honey PHHHLEEEAAASEE I WANT TO KNOW! TELL ME EVERYTHING!
But ok, lets be real. Before you send them 20 texts in a row, just stop for a second, and take a breath.
We don’t want to scare them away now do we? NO! Let’s try to act like a normal person, and let’s just send them one well written message.
Maybe three. Ok, four. And two heart emojis.
All the other long distance relationship guides out there tell us
to avoid excessive communication while doing long distance.
Yeah, ok, aha.
But what does “excessive” even mean…I mean…
who defines what’s excessive. But we are not doing what everyone else is doing!
LET’S TALK TO OUR BOOBOOS ALL THE TIME AND LET THEM KNOW WE LOOOOOVE THEM!
TALK ABOUT YOUR SHARED FUTURE TOGETHER
Like the “near future”.
Because this long distance phase is NOT GOING TO LAST FOREVER GIRL!
It has to end some time. Because when it ends, and when you and your SO finally live in the same country, in the same city, same area code, same street, UNDER THE SAME ROOF
then HAAALLELUJAH! All the suffering will be over and
the rest of your lives may begin!
So, plan out your future together with your booboo. IT’S FUN! And obviously you don’t have to live by these plans but it’s fun to play make-believe.
Where you wanna live?
What color will your kitchen be? What size dog should you adopt?
Small? Medium? A Great Dane?
What you’re gonna name your cat?
Will you host Sunday brunches for your friends?
Are you a couple who spends money on decorating
the apartment or a couple who puts all extra money aside for more travel? Are you spending thanksgiving with
your SO’s family?
Are you having pizza and margaritas for dinner every night? (Yes.)
So many lovely, crazy things to talk about together.
Right now one of my biggest dreams is to spend so much time with
my boy that his presence would start to annoy me so much
I’d push him out the door to spend some time with “the guys”.
Then I’d drink some wine alone on the couch while watching
some reality crap on TV, but then after 30 minutes
I’d start missing him and beg for him to come back home
and bring me pizza and M&Ms.
That’s the perfect life.
RULES? DO YOU HAVE THEM? “WHAT” ARE YOU?
I’d like to think this goes without saying but I’ll put this here anyway;
YOU NEED TO SET OUT SOME GROUND RULES FOR YOU.
ARE YOU BEING EXCLUSIVE? Does your partner know you are exclusive?
Or are you allowed to date other people? Are you on Tinder?
Like, how serious are you with them? Where is this relationship going?! AAA!!
Imagine the horror of you thinking you’re being exclusive with them,
and then you’d find out they’re happily dating all these other people?? AND YOU’VE BEEN LIVING IN
CELIBACY ALL THIS TIME LIKE A FOOL!?
Talk things through with your boo. Make sure you both know what you are and where you’re going.
How will the distance affect you?
If one of you already feels like they can’t do it or they
have doubts about it…proceed with caution.
The key to every healthy, successful relationship is TRUST.
And if you can’t trust each other you’re in trouble.
If you’re so in love that you are willing to do long distance, you can’t really but trust your SO. They won’t hurt you.
You won’t hurt them. When the love is strong and real you
have nothing to worry about.
When you know, you just know, and it’s beautiful.
VISIT EACH OTHER AS MUCH AS YOU CAN!
Visit each other as much as you possibly can – BUT! Do it smartly.
I mean, visit each other all you want and all you can! GET THEM!
But for example in my case, when your boo lives in a
TOTALLY DIFFERENT CONTINENT, things are a bit tricky.
It’s not like you can just take the bus
and go see them every other weekend….If that was my case
I wouldn’t even be writing this. I’d be sitting on a bus with hearts on my eyes.
Anyway, try to visit them as much as you can.
But if you’re planning on moving in together in the near future,
or planning on a longer stay together at some point soon, or anything
that requires an excessive amount of monnneehhh,
-be smart and try to save as much money as you possibly can.
More money – more time together.
But yeah, I totally understand if sometimes you just
lose your brain and like maniac just buy a ticket for the next available flight to see them. BECAUSE I’m THIS CLOSE to doing it myself right now.
Send them letters, postcards, little gifts…send them photos, memes, stuffed animals….Surprise them by randomly sharing a lovely memory of something you two have done or tell them how much you love their smile or their voice. Everyone needs a little bit of cheer to their days! And this is one of the best ways to do it.
Even though your boo is the most important to you,
you can’t build your whole life around them. Not right now anyway because you can’t even be with them 247.
So, you got to
REMEMBER TO LIVE YOUR OWN LIFE TOO.
It’s easy to just wrap yourself in warm blankets and
day dream about your boo, cry yourself to sleep and go through your pictures of him. But you can’t do that all the freaking time. I mean you can.
But time goes by so much faster when you actually do stuff and try to have some fun.
Go to work, make time for good friends, work out, eat nice things and maybe even find a nice new hobby!
I mean, the reason I’m writing this little fart right here is because
I don’t want to just lie down on the ground and cry
cos I miss my man so much. I’ll do that tomorrow again, but now I’m being productive.
But yeah, as you surround yourself with things that make you happy
– you spend less time on counting days and hours for the next time you see your boo.
You’ll feel more energetic, you’ll have cool new stories to tell and you’re more attractive when you’re happier and it makes your boo happy to see you happy.
If they truly care about you that is. Which they hopefully do.
All in all, what can I say.
Doing long distance really sucks.
But I’ve accepted the fact that this is a phase we just got to muddle through, and our price by the finish line is LOVE.
And you are getting closer to it every day.
Remember when I wrote the article about having a crush on this guy, that it probably wouldn’t work out since we live on different continents and I was going to Greece for work?
Well…HAHHAA! That boy is mine now and I’m happy beyond words.
My statement still stands, he’s everything I’ve ever wanted.
And my final words today to YOU, my dear readers, is that ANYTHING CAN HAPPEN. LITERALLY ANYTHING CAN HAPPEN.
Love is magical, and for the first time in my life someone is making me cry happy tears. And when you find your person – don’t let them get away.
“Don’t cross oceans for someone who wouldn’t even step over a puddle for you”
Yep, don’t do that.
But you should cross oceans, continents, and time zones for a person who’s done that same for you, and is willing to do it over and over again until you don’t have to anymore.
WITH THIS ARTICLE I START MY YEAR OF AWESOMENESS, SUCCESS, LOVE AND MAGIC.
Have a fantastic 2019 y’all!
See you in my next text next week!
xoxox, gossip girl